“Hi, My Name Is Michael Ellsberg, And I’m Here To Lead An Eye Contact Revolution.”
An eye contact revolution? What the heck is that?
Well, no one makes eye contact with each other anymore. I’m here to change that.
We all have our faces buried in our Twitter, our Facebook, our iPhones, our MacBooks.
But, when a screen stares back at you, do you see the depths of another soul? Do you see pain, longing, desire, hope, decency, depth… humanity?
These things, my friends, we can only get from eye contact. Which is becoming a lost art. And a vanishing phenomenon
Five years ago, I started Eye Gazing Parties, a series of singles events based on eye contact. I thought it was as wacky as an idea as everyone else, but somehow, they struck a chord with people. I think people are feeling isolated, craving human connection. And somehow the chance to gaze deeply into others’ eyes and make a real, honest, open connection, even if only for a few minutes, seemed like an opportunity not to be missed.
The media caught on–and Eye Gazing Parties were featured in the New York Times, CNN, Good Morning America, and in Tim Ferriss’s #1 New York Times bestseller The Four-Hour Workweek (pp. 60-61). Elle magazine called them “New York’s hottest dating trend.”
But more important than the press accolades, from hosting these events across the country, in NYC, SF, and at a rollicking workshop at Burning Man 2009 with over 100 people in attendance, I’ve seen the power of eye contact to transform.
It can transform our everyday interactions into near-magical moments of beauty.
It can transform a simple hello into an adventure into another person’s world.
It can transform a rushed interaction into a moment where time stands still. Just for a moment.
Now, I’ve gathered all the wisdom about eye contact and human connection I could find, and put it into one place, my new book The Power of Eye Contact, published by HarperCollins April 2010.
In the book, I interview some of the coolest people on the planet about why eye contact is so important to our lives as humans, and how we can use it to enrich our social, spiritual, and professional lives.
Here’s what others are saying about the book:
—Marci Shimoff, New York Times bestselling author of Happy for No Reason
—Coleman Barks, bestselling author of The Essential Rumi, The Soul of Rumi and Rumi: The Book of Love
—Martin Strel, holder of 4 Guinness World Records in marathon swimming, co-author of The Man Who Swam the Amazon, professional public speaker
—Dr. Ivan Misner, author of the New York Times bestselling Masters of Networking and Truth or Delusion? Busting Networking’s Biggest Myths
—Rom Brafman, co-author of the New York Times bestseller Sway: The Irresistible Pull of Irrational Behavior
—Thomas Farber, author of The Beholder
Buy the book now on Amazon for less than $10